Before work, school, or just going out in public, we all stand in front of our closets and make a conscious decision on what we will be wearing for the rest of the day. This process fascinates me, as each and everyone of us is faced with the same dilemma, yet we all make different decisions based on our personalities or circumstances.
To some, getting dressed is merely a functional process of covering one’s body with clothing. To these people, it’s a matter of what can be reached the quickest, rather than what can look the best.
To others, it’s a ritual that must be painstakingly consistent, down to a T. Whether it be based on a rotation or season, these people need to be dressed a certain, unchangeable way, mainly to make sure they don’t break what’s working.
And of course there are people who think a bit more about what the occasions (and people) in front of them will look like, and try to dress accordingly. They want to portray themselves to the world in a certain light, and serve a tailored message to those who look at them.
I don’t believe anyone is right or wrong in this matter; it’s all a matter of choice. However, let me tell you why I personally think the ritual of getting dressed properly in the morning actually matters.
To me, getting dressed is more than just putting on clothing. It’s a time when I get to decide what type of image I want to put in front of others. Without speaking a single word, I will already have portrayed a certain message, swagger, and lifestyle just from the outfit I put on.
If I’m wearing thick gold chains, baggy acid-wash jeans, and high-top Jordans, I’m clearly sending a different image for others to identify me by, than if I’m wearing a black suit and tie. And as you all probably know from personal experience, first impressions are incredibly important, almost unfairly so. So why wouldn’t I want to carefully craft the message I send to others?
Now, people will argue that it doesn’t matter what others think of you, or that people who judge you for your choice of your clothing are just plain superficial.
To some extent, I agree. We shouldn’t take other peoples’ opinions too seriously, and superficial judgement can be misleading or unfair. However, the truth is that we don’t live in a world where other peoples’ opinions don’t matter at all. Your relationships, your decisions, and even your career are influenced by peoples’ perception of you, and you have no way to avoid it. The moment you step out into the public, there are expectations of you, and if you want to gain respect or paint a favorable picture of yourself to others, you better make the right impression, which might include learning how to dress properly.
When you know the rules of dressing properly, and the types of clothing you need to attain, it will certainly pay off in the long run. The opposite sex- and same sex- may appreciate the effort, the level of respect you gain from the general public will likely increase, and you’ll feel more confident about yourself, as your clothing will serve as an extension of you.
Also, whether we like it or not, people choose to interact with us differently based on our clothing. Walk into a luxury hotel with a baseball hat and baggy jeans; I guarantee the amount of service and attention you get will pale in comparison to when you walk into that same hotel with a sport coat. I’ve done these types of social experiments myself… and I can confirm it. I’m even thinking of making a video about this phenomenon.
So in all, I want to encourage you all to think about what you wear just a little bit more. Express, empower, and of course, be yourself through your clothing. Craft the message you want to send to others, and show them that you’re willing to put in the effort.
By virtue of visiting a blog like mine, I’m confident you’re already on your way there, but just in case, I thought I would reinforce the topic with this post. Of course in a billion words or more, in true Simpler Man fashion.